Coming for individual therapy allows you to have a space just for you. A space where you can explore and be curious about you. I will endeavour to make sure that I am the right counsellor for you and to sit by your side in your counselling journey.
So what happens is that we first meet for an assessment for about fifty minutes to an hour. This is really where I am making sure that the counselling I can offer is right and appropriate for you. If I feel that this is not the case we would discuss this and I would suggest other therapies or counselling that might be more useful and appropriate for you.
ONGOING INDIVIDUAL COUNSELLING SESSIONS
At the start it is preferable to have weekly sessions, although I am very aware of the impact on finances too. Later, we can then discuss having fortnightly sessions as this sometimes also allows more time to reflect what has been talked about and complete any exercises that we may have discussed and agreed upon.
COUNSELLING IS A JOURNEY
Coming to counselling is a journey and can be very emotionally draining at times. I am very aware of saying this but I feel it is important for you to know this and we can of course discuss this further and more in depth at the Initial Assessment and ongoing sessions. Counselling allows you a space, place and time to reflect on your life journey so far, working in the here and now but hopefully moving towards the future having had the benefit of counselling to empower you and enhance your onward life journey.
I look forward to working with you and supporting you in a safe, kind and empathetic therapeutic space. Please feel free to contact me if you have any questions, queries or concerns, I will be happy to discuss further, contact me at: firstname.lastname@example.org or on my mobile (0798) 1261526.
Having time to reflect on your own behaviour within a couple is important. To really listen is hard and to really start hearing one another is the start of an amazing onward journey together as a couple. I am aware that coming to Couples Counselling is a big decision for you both to make.
I am here, to support and guide you around the challenges and difficulties that you may have been facing or dealing with possibly for many months or even years.
So what happens is that we first meet for an assessment for about fifty minutes to an hour. This is really where I am making sure that the Counselling I can offer you both is right and appropriate for you. If I feel that this is not the case we would discuss this and I would suggest other therapies or counselling that might be more useful and appropriate for you. It might be that further assessment, after our first initial meeting is needed. In this case I would see you both individually for one session and then a further session together to decide whether Couple Counselling is a right way forward for you.
ONGOING COUNSELLING SESSIONS
At the start it is preferable to have weekly sessions, although I am very aware of the impact on finances too. Later, we can then discuss having fortnightly sessions as this sometimes also allows more time to reflect what has been talked about and complete any homework too!
COUNSELLING IS A JOURNEY
Once you start counselling sessions, you may find it very emotionally draining. Please know that this is normal however I feel that it is something important for you to know. I look forward to working with you both and supporting you in a safe, kind and empathetic therapeutic space. Coming to Counselling allows you a space, place and time to reflect on your life journey so far, working in the here and now but hopefully moving towards the future having had the benefit of counselling to empower you.
I look forward to working with you and supporting you in a safe, kind and empathetic therapeutic space. Please if you have any questions, contact me either at email@example.com or on my mobile (0798) 1261526
Sex & Intimacy
Family & Work Relationships
What are the common themes for people seeking Couple Therapy/Counselling.
For many people it may be that one of the couple has had an affair, acted out whether physical or emotionally connected with another person outside of the couple dynamic.
Couples certainly lose their way over time especially if they have been busy raising a family. Children grow up, go onto further studies. University, move overseas, move out with their own partners or maybe stay home as adults. The different dynamics of blended families, foster, adopted, same sex, multi-racial, living in the same house but with different origin cultures, different religions can all have an impact on all members of the family living under the same roof. The world is a smaller place, some might say a global village and many people are living away from their original homeland, this can all impact and create challenges for many couples in 2019 and beyond!
Of course family members have an impact on couples, whether we are looking after aging parents, grandparents, or extended family. Having to cope with illness, with seen or un-seen disability, the loss/death of a family member whether recently or a long time ago. Having family living overseas, in a different country, county or just down the road or even next-door can again all have their impact on a couples time together.
Work inside the home or working outside the home, career paths, whether working in the private, public, academic or volunteering world again have an impact on us all. Whether working for a corporate and the norm being a 50, 60 or 70 hour working week, commuting long distances to working shift work/unsociable hours, zero hours contracts! Being a full time Mum, Dad, adoptive parent, grand-parents, carers, foster carers, self-employed, signed off long term sick, not working due to not being able to work again impact us all.
My intention is to guide you through these Relationship Pathways.
There may be other reasons that find you seeking Couple Therapy but again having the therapeutic space will allow and enable time in a safe space to explore this further together.
Social, historical, economic, environmental and political events all impact and shape our lives. Whatever your gender, ethnicity, seen or unseen disability, race, sexual identity, religious and spiritual belief or none, I will listen to you with empathy, kindness, respect and understanding.
As a Relate Trained Counsellor, I particularly draw on the Systemic and Psychodynamic Theoretical Perspectives but also understand the importance of being client led. I listen to family scripts and narratives, with a person-centred focus. My experience over 2400 hours means that I have worked with, supported and cared for many different and unique individuals.
This had led me to a greater understanding of the importance and impact of the many systems that affect us throughout our lives.
Wherever we live in the world these systems include:
- The family systems and networks of our original care providers whatever form that may be including adopted, carers, foster
- Schooling, friends, peers, teachers, the education system, University, College
- The Workplace and working environment
- Current family life whether blended, extended and same sex and friends that we choose to call our family
All of these have a significant effect on our lives, mental health and well-being.
I am here to listen to you, it is good to talk, to be able to share your feelings.
Getting Started is Easy
This initial session is an important first step in your counselling journey.
Flexible session times to suit your needs via zoom
Confidentiality & Safety
The counselling I offer is a private and confidential form of help. I hold information about each of my clients and the counselling they receive in confidence. This means that I will not normally give your name or any information about you to anyone outside the organisation. However, there are exceptional cases where I might ethically or legally have to give information to relevant authorities, for example, if I had reason to believe that someone, especially a child, is at serious risk of harm.
If you come with a partner/wife/husband, I may suggest seeing each of you individually. It is important for you to know that what is said in those individual sessions will be confidential and not shared with your partner/wife/husband.
Controlling and coercive behaviour is an issue for many people who come to Counselling for help with their relationship. From my experience working with couples or family members may not be safe. If this is so, I would suggest that each person to get individual specialist support from another supportive and reputable agency.