• Look around you
  • Find 5 things you can see, four things you can touch, three things you can hear, two things you can smell, and one thing you can taste

This is called grounding. It can help when you feel like you have lost all control of your surroundings.


Just breathe – Remember the 5 second Rule – breath in for 3 seconds and out for 2 seconds. You can do this anytime, anywhere – no one needs to know.

  • The Relate Guide to After the Affair – How to build Trust and Love Again – Julia Cole
  • The Relate Guide to Better Relationships – Sarah Litvinoff
  • The Relate Guide to Loving Yourself Loving Another: The importance of Self-Esteem for Successful Relationships – Julia Cole
  • How to do Relationships – Anjula Mutanda
  • The Relate Guide to Sex & Intimacy – Cate Campbell
  • Relationships – The School of Life
  • The Other Half of Asperger Syndrome – (Autism Spectrum Disorder) Maxine Aston
  • The Asperger Couple’s Workbook – Practical Advice & Activities for Couples and Counsellors – Maxine Aston – Foreword by Tony Attwood

    • How to Help your Loved One Overcome Depression – Dr Nicola Ridgeway & Dr James Manning
    • Living with a Black Dog – How to take care of someone with depression while looking after yourself – Matthew & Ainsley Johnstone
    • Reasons to Stay Alive – Matt Haig
    • Shoot the damn dog – A Memoir of Depression – Sally Brampton
    • The Recovery Letters – Addressed to People Experiencing Depression – Edited by James Withey and Olivia Sagan


    • Sane New World – Ruby Wax
    • A Mindfulness Guide for the Frazzled Mind – Ruby Wax
    • How to be Human- The Manual – Ruby Wax
    • Daring Greatly – How the Courage to be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent and Lead – Brene Brown
    • How to stay Sane – Philippa Perry – The School of Life
    • Ikigai – The Japanese Secret to a Long and Happy Life – Hector Garcia and Francesc Miralles
    • Notes on a Nervous Planet – Matt Haig
    • The Book You Wish Your Parents had Read (and Your Children Will be Glad That You Did) – Phillipa Perry
    • The Silent Guides – Understanding and developing the mind throughout life –Professor Steve Peters
    • The Things You can See Only When You Slow Down – How to be Calm in a Busy World – Haemin Sunim


    • Am I Depressed and What Can I do About It? A CBT self-help guide for teenagers experiencing low mood an depression – Shirley Reynolds and Monika Parkinson
    • Blame my Brain – Nicola Morgan
    • Keep your Cool – How to Deal with Life’s Worries and Stress – Dr Aaron Balick
    • Positively Teenage – A Positively Brilliant Guide to Teenage Life – Nicola Morgan
    • The Teenage Guide to Friends – Nicola Morgan
    • The Teenage Guide to Life online – Nicola Morgan
    • The Teenage Guide to Stress – Nicola Morgan
    • You Are Awesome – Matthew Syed

    Frequently Asked Questions

    How early should I arrive for a Counselling session?

    It is best that you arrive as near to the time of your session as possible. Please know that there is a waiting area near reception as well as seats in the café further down the hallway. I might be seeing other clients so, please do not knock on the Counselling Room door. I will come out of the room to meet you. Thank you for your understanding.

    How long does a Counselling session last?

    Usually 50 minutes however, the Initial Assessment may take an hour especially if you are a Couple. I may suggest that we continue assessment to make sure that I am the right counsellor for you. This would involve individual assessments and then another together session to make sure it is the right Counselling for you both.

    What is the average number of Counselling sessions a person/couple needs?

    It really depends, some people find that just a few sessions are useful. However, it would be fair to say that an average estimate is between 8 and 12 sessions, but many people have more sessions. Please know there is no right or wrong, it is client specific and led by you. We would always discuss ongoing sessions during session.

    Do you counsel all ages?

    In my Private Practice I counsel clients 18+ years to 90+ years young!

    Can I bring children/babies to the Counselling Sessions?

    I am afraid this would not be suitable or practical. I understand it is difficult to sometimes find childcare but it would not be fair on you as a client/clients or the children. If the session was to become emotionally difficult the children/babies would pick up on this. Also, you would not be benefiting 100% from the session and you would be wasting your time and money.

    Is there disability access/disability parking?

    Yes there is at the Golf Road Centre, Deal, CT14 6PY for further details check out their website.

    What happens if I want to stop my/our Counselling sessions?

    It would be something that we would discuss and generally we would all know that it would be an ending session when you wanted to finish. Of course if you decide to not come back at any time that is your choice. Just to reiterate sessions are very much client led and there is no pressure to continue sessions if you no longer want to attend but it is useful if we all know that the session is going to be the last one. This allows me as your Counsellor to hold the session appropriately and to ensure that you are supported in the best way possible.

    What if I want to come back for a Counselling Session but not seen you in a while?

    Depending on the time that has gone by it might be necessary to have another assessment.

    Are the Counselling Sessions confidential?

    The Counselling Sessions are Confidential however, please see my Confidentiality & Safety Guidelines in the Counselling Services Section of the Website for further advice and guidance.

    Are there any books you recommend?

    Yes sure, please check out my book recommendations in the Helpful Resources Section of my website.

    What is your cancellation policy?

    The full session fee for cancellations and missed appointments without 24 hours’ notice will be applied. However, if there are unforeseen events/circumstances such as illness, injury, or weather challenges then this can be discussed at the time.

    What happens if we meet outside of a session?

    I would not approach you. However, if you said hello to me, I would of course say hello back.

    Contact Me

    Ask a question or book an appointment below.
    For emergencies call 999 or visit your nearest hospital

    07981 261526

    28 Golf Road Centre, Deal, Kent CT14 6PY

    17 Stour St, Canterbury, CT1 2NR

    Disabled parking, access & toilets